Hey y’all! I wanted to come on here and do a post about my birthday. If you guys didn’t know, Friday, February 9th was my 24th birthday. I had a wonderful weekend celebrating with family and friends. On Friday, I went out for pizza and drinks with my family and one of my best friends. On Saturday, I spent the whole day shopping (aka my favorite thing), and Sunday my family threw me a brunch! You know how your mom will usually ask “What can I cook you for dinner for your birthday?” Well, this year I requested a birthday brunch and let me tell ya, it was the best idea I’ve had in a while! We had a mimosa bar, blueberry french toast casserole, frittatas, and A LOT of bacon! Brunch is my favorite meal. How did I not think of this years ago?!
Anyways, I decided to do a post on how I’m looking ahead to the future and already making a conscious effort to make 24 my happiest, best year yet!
On the day of my birthday, as I was driving home, I couldn’t help but think to myself how happy I truly am for where I’m at in my life. I have a tendency to be pretty negative sometimes and only focus on the bad. But, on my birthday I felt so optimistic (I’m always just in the best mood on my birthday). But seriously, it made me realize that if I made a conscious effort to look at the positives in my life every single day, I would be a lot happier.
The following are some of the things I’d like to focus on this year to make myself a stronger, happier person!
1. live in the moment
“Depressed people live in the past. Anxious people live in the future. People at peace live in the present.”
This is a quote that I saw recently and it really hit home.
I feel like ever since I turned 21 the years have just been flying by. My twenties are supposed to be the best years of my life, I don’t want them to fly by! But here I am, just turned 24 when it feels like I was just celebrating 21 yesterday. Heck, I remember being 20 and counting down the days until I was 21 so that I finally didn’t have to worry about being carded.
I think our twenties fly by (or seem like they’re flying by) at times because we fail to live in the moment and be thankful for what we have. We’re so focused on what our lives should look like that we fail to just enjoy the moment. I sometimes worry that I should have already found the person that I’m going to marry, or that it’s a problem that I’m not at the peak of my career yet.
TBH, I expect A LOT out of myself. People probably read that and think, “OMG you’re 24, you have all the time in the world.” I know, I know. That’s why I’m making a conscious effort to live in the moment this year.
There are a lot of beautiful things about where I’m at in life.
#1 – I can basically go any direction I want with my career. I’m starting to realize more and more that even though I have a marketing degree, I can truly do whatever I want! I’m starting to realize through my current role and blogging that I have a true passion for writing, and I’d like to maybe turn that into a career. But again, who knows?! I’m at that age where I can just explore and anything is possible!
#2 – Even though I don’t appreciate it at times, being single at my age is pretty awesome. I’m honestly not ready to get married or have children yet, I’m too focused on my career. So I’m very thankful for where I’m at and know God will put the right person in my life when it’s time.
#3 – I’m simply young! I’m at the prime of my life (or at least that’s what people tell me?!) So I guess I’d better enjoy it! 🙂
BTW, with all of this talk about career, you all should check out my LinkedIn article “Work—More Than Just a Paycheck” this article focuses on how everyone should strive to have a job that makes them happy. It’s gotten almost 100 likes and 20+ shares! I’m absolutely overwhelmed by the love that my LinkedIn network has shown me. It just reminds me how much I love writing and just encourages me to share what’s on my heart as often as possible. I’m so thankful!
2. stop comparing myself
If there’s one thing that’ll bring you down it’s constantly comparing yourself to other people; what they look like, where they’re at in life, what they have, etc. Unfortunately, I’m guilty of this and lemme tell ya, it’s a real easy way to feel like sh*t about yourself.
As a newbie fashion and beauty blogger I follow tons of other bloggers who I aspire to be like. I love following them, I think their feeds are awesome! Plus, it gives me inspiration for my blog. However, a lot of the fashion bloggers I see on my feed I’ll always think to myself “wow, she’s way skinnier than me” or “wow, she is just so pretty. I wish I looked like that.”
Why do I have these thoughts? To be honest, I just can’t control it.
But, when I sit back and think about it, I think yeah, those girls may be really beautiful, but they’re not me. And what makes me unique is what makes me beautiful. People are going to want to follow me because my content and my ideas are unlike anyone else’s, because they are MINE. Everyone is their own person, and I’m not going to let someone else’s appearance get me down. I’m awesome and I should be celebrating me and trying to grow my platform, not constantly worrying about whether or not it’s like theirs!
3. be kind, always
I know this is something that we should all strive to be every single day is kind to one another. It should simply be second nature. But, I want to make a conscious effort this year to make sure I’m always being kind. I truly believe that what goes around comes around. If you are always spreading kindness, good karma will come back to you!
I don’t want to gossip about people, I want to make new friends. I don’t want to have a negative attitude, I want to be someone who others love being around. Simply put, I want to focus (even more than I already do) on being kind!
4. read every night
Reading truly inspires me and I believe makes me wiser! I love cuddling up at night with a good read, but I’ve been really bad about it lately. Some of my favorite books that I just stopped reading (not even sure why) are “The Defining Decade” and “The Girl’s Guide“. I highly recommend both from what I’ve read!
I’d also like to start reading the bible this year. As I grow older, I’ve grown much closer to God. I pray very often and live by many bible verses, but I’d love to actually say I’ve read the whole bible. I think it would give me such a better understanding.
5. put my happiness first & don’t hold back
This year, I’m going to make sure I put my happiness first. I often times put other’s before myself and I’m not sure why. I’ve just always been a people pleaser. But, what I’ve learned is that you can’t be your best self if you aren’t happy first. Once you’re happy, you radiate happiness, and everything and everyone around you gets better too. Focus on yourself, love yourself, and always put your happiness first even if it seems selfish.
Secondly, I don’t want to hold back this year. I’ve noticed that because I put other people and other things first before my own happiness, I hold back. Maybe I don’t take an opportunity because I’m too concerned about others, maybe I don’t take a risk because of what others say. IDK! It’s hard to give specific examples. The point is this – we shouldn’t hold back, ever. Especially in your twenties. Take every opportunity and embrace it for what it is. Travel on a whim. Take chances, even if you’re afraid you might fail. Now is the time to do it and who knows, maybe something great will come out of it!
That’s all for now friends. I am so excited for 24. Thanks for following along with me and I can’t wait to grow my blog and share even more content with you all this year.